Nobody really wants to talk about the “G word”: grief! It’s a subject people try to ignore, but everyone experiences grief. Grief is the natural and normal reaction to loss. No amount of education, success or good deeds will grant immunity from loss and grief.
But what we know about grief- or what we think we know – isn’t natural, normal, healthy or helpful. We have only myths to guide us through the hardest moments of life: “time will heal” or “just stay busy” or “be strong for others.”
Imagine saying “time will heal” to someone with their hand on a hot stove. We’d demand action. Yet when it comes to emotional wounds we fail to act. Instead we isolate ourselves and wait – wait for time, for enough “busy” activities, or for a well of “strength” to magically appear.
But that’s like having a flat tire and just “giving it time,” hoping it will magically re-inflate itself. Fixing the flat tire demands action. We call for help or change the tire ourselves.
Grief is no different. We must learn to change our emotional flat tires. All we need to do is learn the steps. It is never too soon or too late to learn.
Whether our grief is from death, a relationship’s end, job loss, loss of health or wealth, or one of the other 40 different types of loss we may experience in a lifetime (grief is not limited to death), we can recover. Be it recent or long ago, we can reclaim our happiness.
Grievers are not broken and they do not need to be fixed. But we do need to learn how to recover from unresolved grief. And we can learn how….in less hours than there are in a day!
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