Stress is a reality; work, family, finances…traffic! Life is busy. It can be helpful from time to time to step back from your day-to-day and remind yourself that stress is as much about the attitudes you adopt as the original choice that got you stressed in the first place. It is up to you to choose your reaction to stress.
You are making the choice of how your life is spent. No one else. You. I can hear it now, “I have to work. I have to __ (fill in the complaint of choice).” When we find ourselves in unpleasant situations, it causes stress.
At times like this, we might wish we could push the “reboot” button. The “If Only’s” kick in. If only I hadn’t taken that job, gained that weight, had that last kid, married that idiot. It is time to get real…since “That ain’t gonna happen” (a phrase I like to use on my husband) we need to change our responses. You can decide to choose less stress because you are the creator.
I have no desire to simplify my life right now. I am in the peak responsibility and productivity years. I want to raise my children, grow my business, and better myself in the process. It is not simple. It is not easy to maintain my vision. It is messy, time consuming and expensive – but I love it! Maybe I am an adrenaline junkie but at the end of my life, I want to skid into my grave and say, “Damn-that was great!” I accept and embrace the stress in my life because it is evidence of the progress I am making towards achieving my dreams.
Since I have been under considerable stress this year (of my own choosing) it got me thinking, “When life is physically and mentally pushing limits, how can it be handled with grace over panic?”
Here are four tips I utilize to shift my mindset towards stress:
1) Leave the past behind.
Let go of your past stories and enjoy the ones you are creating today
2) Chose to be a champion
We become what we think about most. Period. Memorize that. It is true!
3) Discover your magnetism
Attract who and what you need into your life through enthusiasm and commitment.
4) “If-Only’s” ruin everything
If only should be removed from your vocabulary (see tip #1)
Enjoy my friends!